Once upon a time…

Once upon a time

I was a baby

Milk and a clean diaper was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a a toddler

Food, random objects and a clean diaper was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a child

Food and toys was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a high schooler

Food, friends and good grades was all I needed

Once upon a time

I became a young adult

Food and graduating from college was all I needed

Once upon a time

I found my first job

Food and proving myself was all I needed

Once upon a time

I got married

Food, a home and proving myself was all I needed

Once upon a time

I had children

Taking care of them and proving myself was all I needed

Now I have t(w)eens

Life is not about approval from others

Taking care of the family is still a high priority

Taking care of “me” is a concept that has now dawned upon me

Food is still something I need! ūüėÄ

-A.K

Don’t be a victim of Inertia¬†

Do you or know someone who doesn’t get out much?  Do they prefer watching television to riding a bike? Then this post is for you!

What is ‘Inertia’?
Here is the definition of inertia (from dictionary.com):

“Resistance or disinclination of a body to motion, action or change”

Or

“A tendency of a body at rest to remain at rest”

If I were to simplify these definitions, these are some of the words that I would use:

  • Lazy
  • Lethargy 
  • Inactive
  • Disengaged/Clueless (in relation to the surroundings)

Let me put this in context.  Do you remember the science experiment in high school that demonstrated the concept of inertia?

If not, I can reiterate.

  • Place a cloth over a table
  • Set a few items on the cloth such as cups and dishes (preferably not glass)
  • Pull the cloth towards you, using both arms evenly, in a very swift and horizontal  motion

*If executed correctly, the cups and dishes should stay in their original positions even after the cloth has been pulled away.

Why? Because the objects are resistant to change in motion.

Let’s put this into a real life scenario:

It’s Saturday morning.  There are so many fun things to do with the family.  There are so many errands to run. The challenge is getting everyone else on board with your swift pace (much like the cloth in the illustration above).

Inertia rears its ugly head!!

Figuratively speaking, there are times when you just want to pull the cloth without attention to the direction and effort used.  Unfortunately, that would simply result in a disruptive situation.  Trying to drag everyone along also creates a negative atmosphere because of their apparent resistance to change.  

There are ways to move things along though.  It would involve some negotiation, patience, leadership and more patience.  Let’s be honest here…our patience reservoirs sometimes get dried up…but it will eventually (when the drought passes ūüėÄ) get replenished so don’t give up hope.

But why has inertia become more widespread today?  There are a few reasons:

  • Kids don’t play outside with the neighbors as much. Everyone is busy with their own lives and we don’t feel as safe letting our kids hang out in the neighborhood without close supervision 
  • Portable devices have eliminated the need for basic social interaction. If you are ever in an airport, bus or restaurant, just take a look at how many kids and adults are on their phones or devices. This has become a standard part of life!
  • Too many options on television.  How many t.v. stations do we need anyway?
  • The internet provides a plethora of viewing and reading options.  Reading is a good thing but pointless reading is an utter waste of time!
  • Web-enabled video games…supposedly this is a substitute for social interaction! 

If everything you need is at your fingertips and can be achieved by sitting in the same position for hours and hours then where is the motivation to get out and play, run around, interact wih people (face to face), and be active? Obesity is a result of eating unhealthy high calorie and high fat foods compounded by the lack of activity in kids today.

The only saving grace for kids is that parents can sign them up for sports like swimming, soccer, tennis, taekwondo or any other sport of choice.  

Adults on the other hand have to realize the negative consequences of inertia (physical, emotional and social) and make changes on their own. We can only encourage them or try to engage them but they have to perceive activity as important in order to change their inactive ways.

Let’s not watch our families fall victim to this horrible tendency. For starters, do things as a family like hike, bike or play sports in the park or backyard.  It will do them good and it will do you good!

-A.K.

    Canoeing can improve your marriage!

    I am not kidding…not entirely anyway. ūüėÄ

    This weekend, my family travelled to the Kickapoo Nature Reserve area for some fun and recreation time.


    It is always funny how teens react when you tell them that you have planned a nature vacation. ¬†At first, they react as though it is the¬†worst possible thing that could happen! Once you get them there though, away from the Netflix videos and video games, they actually enjoy themselves! ¬†Getting that Vitamin D from the sun, getting off their ‘seats’ are all positive things for sure!

    Other than hiking, fishing, seeing Amish communities and farmlands, we went canoeing.  Which brings me to the focus of this post.


    My husband and son paired up and me and my daughter went together.

    It took a few minutes to orient ourselves and figure out how to work with the river, when to turn, how to turn, how to synchronize and be most efficient. ¬†This is very similar to the first year or two of marriage. ¬†When you start living with someone, you have to figure out how they work (some aspects are more apparent than others). ‘Does he squeeze the toothpaste from the top or the bottom?’ ‘Does he believe in making the bed in the morning?’ ūüėÄ

    When you encounter inefficiencies during canoeing such as one partner does not listen to instruction or decides that they are too tired to paddle, you have a few  choices:

    • Give up and stay stuck in the river
    • Yell at your partner and waste your energy
    • Let the¬†other¬†have their non cooperative moment.¬†Sit back and save your arm strength until they realize you have to work as a team to get to the other end of the river
    • Acknowledge that they may just be tired. ¬†Relax and enjoy the river and its surroundings with them!

    The last two choices would probably yield the best results. Just as in a marriage, we have to take a step back once in a while to acknowledge that the other might be going through some pain. ¬†That pain sometimes prevents them from being on the same page as you. ¬†We all know that this ‘pain’ comes in many forms, shapes and sizes. ūüėÄ So rather than being ‘up in arms’, ¬†save your arm strength until they¬†cool off. Then, give them a BIG hug and move right along on the path of life. ¬†They will both appreciate you for understanding and perhaps realize that you are a good team player!¬†

    When I had a rhythm with my canoeing partner, we had fun and we could enjoy the scenary around us. ¬†In marriage too, when your partnership has been (loosely) defined, you can focus more on enjoying life’s happy moments and dealing with issues or adversities in a calm manner (knowing and trusting that your combined strength will take you through).

    It was definitely interesting how after almost 20 years of being married, an activity like canoeing reminded me of the basic principles behind a building (and re-building) a stronger relationship.

    I respect the power of Nature!!

     -A.K

    Pun at the PGA Championship 

    My husband decided to enjoy his day off by going to the PGA Championship at Whistling Straits today.
      
    First and ‘fore’most he had to wake up our ‘birdies’. Which can be challenging at times.

    Once he got   them on ‘par’ with his plans (which required some coaching from me) they headed out to have a ‘ball’ of a time! 

    They got to see Ernie Els’, Tiger Woods’ and Phil Mickelson’s shots soar like an ‘eagle’!

    It turned out to be a beau’tee’ful day!

      
    ūüėÄ

    A.K.