Philosophical Math

Math concepts play a part in many aspects of our life today.  We use addition, subtraction, division, multiplication for day to day transactions. We use angles for constructing buildings.  We use proportions for cooking and baking. These are just a few examples showing the practical use of math.

There are some math equations that I have arrived at (based on my personal experiences):


Fulfillment is inversely proportional to Social Media usage 

I have noticed that my social media usage has reduced ever since started  training for a triathlon. This has been one of my most fulfilling “hobbies”.  Perhaps because it has made me stronger, both mentally and physically.  

I usually turned to Facebook or Instagram when I was bored or lonely.  I guess that type of void has been eliminated. I don’t even experience FOMO (Fear of missing out). That would explain why I don’t feel the need to go on Facebook or Instagram multiple times a day.  Once a week seems to cut it.

Unhappiness is proportional to Expectations 

When I started exploring spirituality  a few years ago, this was one of the first lessons that came to light for me.  Maybe another way of phrasing it would be “You can’t be happy if you are a control freak!!”.  Anytime I felt disappointment, I would stop to reflect on the root cause and inevitably it would point to my expectations in a situation.  

This lesson also reformed my parenting style.  I went from a  “My way or the highway” dictator to being more of a trusted guide, advisor and friend.  Don’t get me wrong…Rules are still enforced when needed (we are dealing with teenagers here 😀).

The Misery Quotient equals pain raised to the power of X

Where X = number of times that a painful incident is remembered, retold or relived.

In other words, the quotient increases exponentially!  Hence we need to let go of things in the past in order to step towards being happy and in the moment. 

😀

A.K.

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An Inspiring Life Anthem

I was listening closely to the song ” Greatest” by Sia and I suddenly realized that it had such an inspiring message.  I could apply it to both my family life and my athletic life.
Here are the lyrics that specifically caught my attention:

Uh-oh, running out of breath, but I

Oh, I, I got stamina

Uh-oh, running now, I close my eyes

Well, oh, I got stamina

And uh-oh, I see another mountain to climb

But I, I, I got stamina

Don’t give up, I won’t give up

Don’t give up, no no no

Don’t give up, I won’t give up

Don’t give up, no no no

We all have days or moments where we feel overwhelmed or where we think that we have nothing left to give.  We have to remind ourselves that we are stronger than what we might believe.  

Our mind has a tendency to put doubt in our own abilities and strength.  Perhaps it is about being in our comfort-zone.  It is so much easier to say “I can’t” than to actually make the effort to overcome.  That is the worst thing that one can say to themselves.  It literally puts you in a rut!

When I started training for a triathlon, I had so much self-doubt.  Starting these adventures after 40? What was I thinking?!  Luckily I opted to work with a personal trainer.  He caught on to my self-doubt quite fast.  Whenever I felt as thought so could not do anymore, his mantra was “This limit is just in your mind .  You need to get past that mental barrier”.  He was right!  He has proved to me that I am capable of way more than I could have even imagined in my adult-onset athletic life! 

That belief in myself has definitely carried over into my regular (non athletic) life as well. It is about staying strong and believing in yourself even against the odds.  There will be failures, yes.  But those are just like mountains…tell yourself , “I’ve got Stamina” and keep going.  If you feeing like as though you’re running out of breath say, “I’ve got stamina…don’t give up don’t give up…no, no, no”. 😀. That gets  you out of “victim” mode instantly!

You will also realize that that ” Stamina” is both physical and, more importantly, mental.  The more you train yourself to believe, the better you will get at progressing yourself through the journey of life…obstacles and all.  Self doubt will naturally subside and you will gain the strength and the focus to pursue your ultimate goal (whether that be a triathlon or merely being a happy soul)!

So don’t give up, don’t give up don’t give up no, no, no.

A.K.

As she lay beside me

As she lay beside me

I looked at her sucking her fingers

With eyes wide open

She was a new born baby!

As she lay beside me

After being nothing short of feisty 

 I saw her sleep calmly

She was a toddler with no shortage of opinions!

As she lay beside me

Needing some good ol’ mommy love

I saw my new best friend

She had grown to be a little lady!

*I look forward to many more milestones. We can bond over so much girly stuff.  😀 Love you baby girl!

A.K.

Resolutions

Happy 2017!  Hope you all had a great holiday season. 

The most common theme after the turn of year was “Resolutions”.  

People shared what their resolutions were:

  • Eat healthier 
  • Exercise more regularly 
  • Be more patient
  • Generally improve themselves

In most cases, those resolutions are kept intact for about a month…at most!  Then life slips back to the usual routine…there no time for the gym, grab a quick bite here and there, just going into auto pilot mode.

So why isn’t there more success with those resolutions?  

Here’s my theory:

  • It is made to be such an event that there is some self-inflicted pressure making it more of a burden
  • There are no short term goals and therefore no immediate rewards for being able to stick to the resolution 
  • It is assumed to be a one-time deal
  • The motivation wears off due to the above two factors

So how can we be more successful?

  • Do not wait till New Years to decide to make a change!
  • Resolve to make a change as soon as you see a need for it
  • Treat every day or week or month as a chance to ‘resolve’ aspects of your life
  • Give yourself credit for mini successes.  This will motivate you to continue on this path.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself when unsuccessful…just try again.  This is your life…you can repeatedly try until you get it right!

A quick way to summarize my thoughts can be through this quote:

“Every day is a chance to be your best!”

😀

A.K.

Happy Diwali!

Diwali…a festival is that represents the victory of “Good over Evil”.  

It is celebrated in many ways:

  • Exchange of gifts
  • Lighting of lamps
  • Colorful designs on the ground (Rangoli)
  • Fireworks
  • Preparation of special foods for the occasion
  • Prayer at home 
  • Visits to the temple

It is a lively festival! 


It made me think though…how many people actually stopped to think about the true significance of Diwali?  I don’t mean reciting the story of Ram’s return to Ayodhya with Sita after defeating the evil King Ravan.  It goes well beyond that!

The good over evil refers to:

  • Us choosing positive thoughts over negative ones.  Instead of assuming the worst of everyone, maybe stop to think about their perspective…show some compassion.  We are always so busy feeing sorry for ourselves that we have no tolerance towards others.  Did we think about this during Diwali?
  • Us trying to better ourselves as human beings, starting within ourselves.  As much as we can wish for others to change, it is more how we deal with them that will make for a healthier relationship. This won’t happen overnight either…it’s our perseverance that will determine that success. Did we think about this during Diwali?

It is a common mistake.  We get so wrapped up in the tangential parts of a festival that we forget its core message.

Food for thought.

A.K.

Fear of missing out (F.O.M.O.)

FOMO comes in many forms.  It could be related to:

  • Information 
  • Opportunities 
  • Being a part of something

Back in the day, people overcame the fear of missing out by coming together and talking as a community…the original form of social media.

The community did a lot of good things:

  • Recognized people that contributed
  • Helped people in need
  • Worked together to achieve
  • Provided moral support for their members

Much like social media, community also created problems like:

  • Disagreements
  • Gossip
  • Disassociation

It is the same driver that makes us want to join a (non-virtual) community that makes us become a part of a socia media outlet…that is FOMO!

Let’s take Facebook, for example:

  • We see photos of our friends and families
  • We hear of their achievements
  • They share events with us
  • We are more connected with our friends

These things are probably what motivate us to check our Facebook accounts everyday.  It gets to a point where you want to make sure you stay on top of everything.  Unfortunately that sometimes includes unnecessary information from your friends’ friends…whether you like it or not (pun not intended)!

You feel so connected with this virtual network that you want to share everything; what you did, where you are, what you ate and the list goes on.  Nothing wrong with any of that of course, but when it starts feeling more like a mental burden, then it’s definitely time to reconsider.  

This is what I realized when I was on vacation a few months ago.  No data, no wifi, no mind clutter a.k.a TMI (too much information). When you see that you are receiving TMI, it also makes you understand that perhaps you have been giving out TMI!

I made a conscious decision to overcome my FOMO (because I questioned whether in fact I was missing out on anything of value) and decided to eliminate the TMI factor from both directions.  Since then, it has been very peaceful from that standpoint.  

I have also realized that my true friends reach out to me outside of Facebook. I can safely say that I have decluttered both virtually and in my personal relationships.  It is a good, fresh start to life!

I complete this blog with the confidence that it is not TMI. 

😀

A.K.