Philosophical Math

Math concepts play a part in many aspects of our life today.  We use addition, subtraction, division, multiplication for day to day transactions. We use angles for constructing buildings.  We use proportions for cooking and baking. These are just a few examples showing the practical use of math.

There are some math equations that I have arrived at (based on my personal experiences):


Fulfillment is inversely proportional to Social Media usage 

I have noticed that my social media usage has reduced ever since started  training for a triathlon. This has been one of my most fulfilling “hobbies”.  Perhaps because it has made me stronger, both mentally and physically.  

I usually turned to Facebook or Instagram when I was bored or lonely.  I guess that type of void has been eliminated. I don’t even experience FOMO (Fear of missing out). That would explain why I don’t feel the need to go on Facebook or Instagram multiple times a day.  Once a week seems to cut it.

Unhappiness is proportional to Expectations 

When I started exploring spirituality  a few years ago, this was one of the first lessons that came to light for me.  Maybe another way of phrasing it would be “You can’t be happy if you are a control freak!!”.  Anytime I felt disappointment, I would stop to reflect on the root cause and inevitably it would point to my expectations in a situation.  

This lesson also reformed my parenting style.  I went from a  “My way or the highway” dictator to being more of a trusted guide, advisor and friend.  Don’t get me wrong…Rules are still enforced when needed (we are dealing with teenagers here ๐Ÿ˜€).

The Misery Quotient equals pain raised to the power of X

Where X = number of times that a painful incident is remembered, retold or relived.

In other words, the quotient increases exponentially!  Hence we need to let go of things in the past in order to step towards being happy and in the moment. 

๐Ÿ˜€

A.K.

As she lay beside me

As she lay beside me

I looked at her sucking her fingers

With eyes wide open

She was a new born baby!

As she lay beside me

After being nothing short of feisty 

 I saw her sleep calmly

She was a toddler with no shortage of opinions!

As she lay beside me

Needing some good ol’ mommy love

I saw my new best friend

She had grown to be a little lady!

*I look forward to many more milestones. We can bond over so much girly stuff.  ๐Ÿ˜€ Love you baby girl!

A.K.

Resolutions

Happy 2017!  Hope you all had a great holiday season. 

The most common theme after the turn of year was “Resolutions”.  

People shared what their resolutions were:

  • Eat healthier 
  • Exercise more regularly 
  • Be more patient
  • Generally improve themselves

In most cases, those resolutions are kept intact for about a month…at most!  Then life slips back to the usual routine…there no time for the gym, grab a quick bite here and there, just going into auto pilot mode.

So why isn’t there more success with those resolutions?  

Here’s my theory:

  • It is made to be such an event that there is some self-inflicted pressure making it more of a burden
  • There are no short term goals and therefore no immediate rewards for being able to stick to the resolution 
  • It is assumed to be a one-time deal
  • The motivation wears off due to the above two factors

So how can we be more successful?

  • Do not wait till New Years to decide to make a change!
  • Resolve to make a change as soon as you see a need for it
  • Treat every day or week or month as a chance to ‘resolve’ aspects of your life
  • Give yourself credit for mini successes.  This will motivate you to continue on this path.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself when unsuccessful…just try again.  This is your life…you can repeatedly try until you get it right!

A quick way to summarize my thoughts can be through this quote:

“Every day is a chance to be your best!”

๐Ÿ˜€

A.K.

To leave or to dye

I was combing my hair one fine morning when I noticed a few silver strands shining through the rest of my black locks.

Here is where the “shocked” emoji might come in handy. Okay, maybe not…it was bound to happen.  It’s not as though I am a teenager, or a 20 something or a 30 something. ๐Ÿ˜€

So, was I to run out to the store and pick out one of the top-of-the-line hair coloring products?    Or was I to simply accept reality and write them off as a sign of wisdom? ๐Ÿ˜€

Really, there is no right or wrong answer here.  It’s just a matter of preference.  Basically, we have to do what makes us comfortable and happy. 

All that being said, I can return to my specific case.  I remembered that I had seen a silver strand a few years ago but it was not particularly conspicuous because of the volume of the rest of my hair.  Now, I was seeing about three strands, still relatively unnoticeable, but there for sure.  My immediate solution was to blend it into the rest of my hair!

I knew that I would eventually need to make a decision on whether to “Leave or Dye”.  For now, I figure that I will just let nature take its course on this one.  Perhaps it will start to look like grey highlights as the grey to black ratio increases by year?  If not, I could reconsider my decision at that time.  

I guess the one question that lingers in my mind is “Why would I want to dye it?”  I have not come up with a single reason…yet. ๐Ÿ˜€

As I always say to myself, nothing in life is permanent. So being able to retract a personal decision would also fit into that category (if it comes down to that).  A personal disclaimer if you will.

Grey, black or whatever the color of the day, we should always keep in mind our  true colors. In the end, that is what people will remember about us the most!

Now, it’s time to break out in the Cyndi Lauper hit that seems to capture the gist of this post:

And I’ll see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that’s why I love you
So don’t be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful
Like a rainbow!

A.K.

Capture the moment…but do not dwell in it!

I enjoy photography.  When my kids were younger, I did not have time the time to take photos of them or anything else. Back then, the concept of a phone camera did not exist. Pulling out the big clunky film-based camera felt unnatural for the day-to-day situations.  

What a difference 10 years can make!  We now have phone cameras and I would in fact pull out my ‘real’ camera to capture home moments. ๐Ÿ˜€

My main problem was that I never savored the moments.  It was all about , “What’s next?”.  I was so caught up in being ‘Mom’ and tending to their needs that I didn’t realize that I never paused to soak in that moment.  

Luckily, my husband did capture videos and photos of the kids. One day, while he was backing up some photos, he showed me a cute video of my daughter.  In the video she was about 2 years old.  She was saying, “Mommy, dance” while she trotted like a little horse.  She was so cute!  She repeated this a few times”.  My only response to her was, “Nice dance”.  

What really got my attention was the fact that I seemed so disengaged.  It wouldn’t take much to get me to dance with her now. ๐Ÿ˜€.  Was I just tired?  Was I annoyed that my husband was taking videos?  Was I just worried about what to make for dinner?  It was very strange to me.  Sometimes looking at yourself through a different lens can be quite revealing!

It had only been about 2 years since that video was shot when I saw it.  I decided to make a few changes from that point on.  I insisted on taking more photos and videos of the kids.  Once those moments pass, we forget about quite a few of them.  It is always nice to revisit those times through videos and photos. They show how we all grow and age with the passing of time.

There is one trap of which we should be aware.  Memories (captured on “film”) are simply a moment in time.  They have passed.  They cannot be forever.  

  • Kids grow up.  We can’t wish that they always remain babies or toddlers.  
  • Vacations are short lived.  We can’t stay away forever.
  • We get old.  We can’t be 29 forever. ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Friends come and go.  Life is not static.

Photos remind us of things that were.  They usually bring a smile to our face.  But we have to eventually close the old “Photo Album” so that we can set up the new Photo Album.  

The best part is that capturing a moment makes us “Live in the moment” 100%…before it passes!

A.K.

With power comes responsibility…

This is a famous line from “The Spiderman”.

I drew inspiration from that line to write this post.

With power comes responsibility,

With responsibilty comes stress

With stress comes malaise

With malaise comes unhappiness

With unhappiness comes despair!

What is the price we pay for gaining power?  More importantly, are we willing to live with those consequences?

-A.K.

The sun will rise…again

Inspired by the concept of impermanence.

The sun will set…with beautiful colors…but fret not, for it will rise again

Close friends will move on…leaving you with only memories…but fret not, for there will be many more people to meet 

Relationships will go awry…leaving you confused…but fret not for this will make you grow (wiser and stronger)

Babies will grow up…giving you fewer cuddles and kisses…but fret not for you can enjoy their teenage humor and shenanigans ๐Ÿ˜€

You will have a really bad day…making you feel worn out…but fret not for work is only a minor part of your day

You will mess up from time to time…and question your integrity…but fret not for your own forgiveness will give you a new beginning!

Youth will slip away…enter botox?  OMG!!!…fret not for wisdom is the key to eternal happiness (and costs much less!)

The sun will set…in all its glory…but fret not for it surely will rise again!

The point being that sometimes things start to look grim beacuse we so badly want to hang on to a “status quo” where we feel really good.   But if we just understand that this feeling of despair is self-imposed (due to our “attachment” to a situation or thing or person) we will be able to move forward.  The happiness that once was is also around the bend (in the form of a new opportunity)…just make that turn…again๐Ÿ˜€

A.K.