Learning to let go

Have you every had to say goodbye to a close friend?

Have you ever had to part with things that you unknowingly attached sentimental value?

Have you ever had to make the decision to downsize because you have more things than your house can reasonably accommodate?

All of these situations are difficult…at first. But when you realize that the problem is in your perspective alone, it makes it a much simpler problem to overcome.

One of my biggest learning moments was when a friend that I had really connected with at a spiritual level had to leave the country for a new opportunity. It took me about six months to adjust to the change (there was a huge void in my life). I missed her a lot. She was the one friend that just got me. I don’t connect very easily with people at that level, so it hurt. But in the process of adjusting and reflecting on my emotions, I learned that I had gotten too attached to her and the idea of her. I had to accept that the strong connection that we had built would cross all barriers including the physical distance. I had to accept that she was a blessing and that she would always be that special friend. Once I could accept that, it was freeing. Now, I still feel the same connection to her even if we don’t talk for say, a month. I call her my “Soul Sister”. But when we do talk, it’s as though we were never apart!

In many ways, it prepared me for my kids becoming teenagers. You have to accept that they will start developing their own schedules, friends and interests. They won’t always come running to you to give you a big hug when you get home as they did when they were toddlers. This doesn’t mean that they love you any less – it just means the relationship is evolving and looks different. They show their love in different ways. The key is that you need to recognize that and more importantly be secure about that.

Now the easier part. Letting go of “stuff”. I personally don’t get attached to “stuff” and I keep purchases to a minimum but not everyone I know shares the same philosophy. Their choices sometimes leaves me in a situation of saying “Gosh, why do we need so much stuff?”. Seriously, why??!!

It has created more stress for me than pleasure. Long story short…it’s time to let go.

My husband and I watched a very interesting documentary on Netflix called “Minimalism” which really provides a lot of good insight into the benefits of simplicity. That was the trigger that he needed to get on board (which helps my cause tremendously 😀).

So, I am on a mission to simplify and minimize, one space at a time. Much like my view on relationships – I am thankful for the things and relationships I have had, but I no longer create a debilitating attachment to either of them. 😀




Who empowers you to be the best you can be?

Is it your employer? Does a company culture automatically translate to empowered employees?

Is it your boss or manager? Do they carve the path for you to “BRING IT!”?

Is it your parents? Did they give to the freedom to explore your own interests and strengths?

Is it your spouse? Does he encourage you to explore and strengthen your individuality?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you have a head start on being empowered.

If you answered “No” to all the questions, fret not…all is not lost.

Although you may get an assist with external sources, true empowerment comes when YOU yourself believe in yourself!

Once you find it within YOURSELF, there’s no stopping you. There is no limit. There no perception of “Rejection” – it is just considered another door closer to SUCCESS!

Once you get here, no one can contain your energy:

No company culture.

No boss.

No parents.

No spouse.


Bottom Line:

Believe, Believe, Believe!


Thank Goodness!

We often get caught up in the mundane aspects of life.

  • Wake up
  • Brush teeth
  • Eat breakfast
  • Go to work
  • Come home
  • Make dinner
  • Chat with family
  • Go to bed
  • Repeat

It’s no wonder we feel stressed out most of the time!

I guess that’s why we say “Thank goodness it’s Friday!”

Knowing that we can actually slow down on the weekend is a pleasant thought.

In all this, we tend to forget about the things that make our lives richer.

So, on the eve of Thanksgiving, I thought I would reflect on some of these things. Perhaps these will resonate with most of you.

Thank Goodness:

  1. I have two loving kids. They never fail to entertain…hormone surges and all. 😀
  2. I have a supportive husband. He has given me the room to discover myself and experience personal growth.
  3. I have a family that cares. Parents, in-laws, siblings. Life would be so lonely without them.
  4. I have a job. Regardless of challenges that are inherent with most jobs, having financial stability is definitely a plus.
  5. I have the time to stay healthy. The gym is one of my “happy places”!
  6. For GPS. I don’t get lost while driving anymore. 😀
  7. For Chocolate. Need I say more?


Here’s to taking a little time to focus on the positive things in our lives!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!


Philosophical Math

Math concepts play a part in many aspects of our life today.  We use addition, subtraction, division, multiplication for day to day transactions. We use angles for constructing buildings.  We use proportions for cooking and baking. These are just a few examples showing the practical use of math.

There are some math equations that I have arrived at (based on my personal experiences):

Fulfillment is inversely proportional to Social Media usage 

I have noticed that my social media usage has reduced ever since started  training for a triathlon. This has been one of my most fulfilling “hobbies”.  Perhaps because it has made me stronger, both mentally and physically.  

I usually turned to Facebook or Instagram when I was bored or lonely.  I guess that type of void has been eliminated. I don’t even experience FOMO (Fear of missing out). That would explain why I don’t feel the need to go on Facebook or Instagram multiple times a day.  Once a week seems to cut it.

Unhappiness is proportional to Expectations 

When I started exploring spirituality  a few years ago, this was one of the first lessons that came to light for me.  Maybe another way of phrasing it would be “You can’t be happy if you are a control freak!!”.  Anytime I felt disappointment, I would stop to reflect on the root cause and inevitably it would point to my expectations in a situation.  

This lesson also reformed my parenting style.  I went from a  “My way or the highway” dictator to being more of a trusted guide, advisor and friend.  Don’t get me wrong…Rules are still enforced when needed (we are dealing with teenagers here 😀).

The Misery Quotient equals pain raised to the power of X

Where X = number of times that a painful incident is remembered, retold or relived.

In other words, the quotient increases exponentially!  Hence we need to let go of things in the past in order to step towards being happy and in the moment. 



As she lay beside me

As she lay beside me

I looked at her sucking her fingers

With eyes wide open

She was a new born baby!

As she lay beside me

After being nothing short of feisty 

 I saw her sleep calmly

She was a toddler with no shortage of opinions!

As she lay beside me

Needing some good ol’ mommy love

I saw my new best friend

She had grown to be a little lady!

*I look forward to many more milestones. We can bond over so much girly stuff.  😀 Love you baby girl!



Happy 2017!  Hope you all had a great holiday season. 

The most common theme after the turn of year was “Resolutions”.  

People shared what their resolutions were:

  • Eat healthier 
  • Exercise more regularly 
  • Be more patient
  • Generally improve themselves

In most cases, those resolutions are kept intact for about a month…at most!  Then life slips back to the usual routine…there no time for the gym, grab a quick bite here and there, just going into auto pilot mode.

So why isn’t there more success with those resolutions?  

Here’s my theory:

  • It is made to be such an event that there is some self-inflicted pressure making it more of a burden
  • There are no short term goals and therefore no immediate rewards for being able to stick to the resolution 
  • It is assumed to be a one-time deal
  • The motivation wears off due to the above two factors

So how can we be more successful?

  • Do not wait till New Years to decide to make a change!
  • Resolve to make a change as soon as you see a need for it
  • Treat every day or week or month as a chance to ‘resolve’ aspects of your life
  • Give yourself credit for mini successes.  This will motivate you to continue on this path.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself when unsuccessful…just try again.  This is your life…you can repeatedly try until you get it right!

A quick way to summarize my thoughts can be through this quote:

“Every day is a chance to be your best!”



To leave or to dye

I was combing my hair one fine morning when I noticed a few silver strands shining through the rest of my black locks.

Here is where the “shocked” emoji might come in handy. Okay, maybe not…it was bound to happen.  It’s not as though I am a teenager, or a 20 something or a 30 something. 😀

So, was I to run out to the store and pick out one of the top-of-the-line hair coloring products?    Or was I to simply accept reality and write them off as a sign of wisdom? 😀

Really, there is no right or wrong answer here.  It’s just a matter of preference.  Basically, we have to do what makes us comfortable and happy. 

All that being said, I can return to my specific case.  I remembered that I had seen a silver strand a few years ago but it was not particularly conspicuous because of the volume of the rest of my hair.  Now, I was seeing about three strands, still relatively unnoticeable, but there for sure.  My immediate solution was to blend it into the rest of my hair!

I knew that I would eventually need to make a decision on whether to “Leave or Dye”.  For now, I figure that I will just let nature take its course on this one.  Perhaps it will start to look like grey highlights as the grey to black ratio increases by year?  If not, I could reconsider my decision at that time.  

I guess the one question that lingers in my mind is “Why would I want to dye it?”  I have not come up with a single reason…yet. 😀

As I always say to myself, nothing in life is permanent. So being able to retract a personal decision would also fit into that category (if it comes down to that).  A personal disclaimer if you will.

Grey, black or whatever the color of the day, we should always keep in mind our  true colors. In the end, that is what people will remember about us the most!

Now, it’s time to break out in the Cyndi Lauper hit that seems to capture the gist of this post:

And I’ll see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that’s why I love you
So don’t be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful
Like a rainbow!