Silence is the best therapy 

Silence calms the mind

Silence relaxes the body

Silence soothes the soul

Silence provides a “reset”

Silence gives you perspective

Silence lets you recharge

Silence makes you reflect 

Silence makes you more loving

Silence makes you more compassionate!

Sometimes that’s all it takes. 😀

A.K.

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Leading lines

  

(Photo taken in Tulum,Mexico)

The path is covered with seaweed 

And sometimes by sand

But don’t be afraid to follow the leading lines 

Focus on the crashing waves

And texture under your feet

As you follow the leading lines 

Those are some big rocks to climb

And twigs to brush aside

To get to the  end of the leading lines

There will be challenges

And doubts along the way

But persist through the leading lines

You’ve finally made it to the top

And everything’s so clear from up here

All thanks to the leading lines!

A.K.

Exotic Vacation package for FREE!

Sounds like a BAD infomercial doesn’t it?  With some poor actors, an attractive payment plan and some throw-ins I should be all set for my one  hour production.  😀

In any case, I actually wanted to talk about the relaxing effect of vacations…and more importantly, their short lived nature.

I just returned from a tropical vacation in Mexico.  It was wonderful! It included family time, snorkeling, swimming, sightseeing, shopping, food to mention just a few things.

It was so relaxing.  Being away from the work life, seeing beautiful scenery and landscapes, taking things at our own pace was a nice change.

You would think that this calm would last atleast a week after the vacation right?  Wrong!

It wore off by Monday afternoon…the first day after vacation!  Well, circumstances were such that meetings and other deadlines fell close together, so there was really no time to ease into the work week.

So if the primary objective of vacation is to relax and rejuvenate, then why pay so much to travel so far (other than to see new places and enjoy warmer weather) just to find that “peace”?  There are other options.  

I have found meditation to have a much longer lasting effect of “Relax and Rejuvenate “.  The best part…it doesn’t cost you a dime!!  

There are many forms of meditation…not just the stereotypical case of a sage sitting on the top of a hill in a cross-legged pose and reciting some mantra! It could be as simple as:

  • Closing your eyes and observing your breathing
  • Observing your steps as you walk to a destination (and I don’t mean using your pedometer)
  • Listening to music 
  • Sitting in a park and listening to the sounds of nature (and sometimes city life)

So when your next vacation is not around the corner, consider some of these FREE vacation-like options.

There are no toll free numbers to call either.  It’s all up to you!

  

😀

A.K.

My Happy Place

I am up in the mountains 

Feeling a cool breeze

I can hear my echo

Amidst all the trees

I explore the terrain

Taking in the walk

Seeing signs of the past

Carved on the rocks

How peaceful it is

Just me and my thoughts  

My mind is much clearer  

Not tangled or caught

It’s time to return now

To the daily routine 

I needed this break

Just to renew ME!

*In my experience a ME-day is invaluable.  Be it real or imaginary! 

😀

A.K.

Are you addicted?

If you ARE, you may not even know it.  So let’s take a deeper dive into what addiction sounds like from the “Outside”.

Warning:  The following quotes have been exaggerated to protect the innocent. 🙂

Addiction to Facebook

  • “I posted a status update one minute ago…I wonder how many “likes” I got so far? Let me check my notifications”
  • “What are my “friends” up to today?”
  • “I just made a hilarious comment on a post – I wonder if anyone “liked” my comment”
  • “It has been an hour now since my status update, did I get any more “likes”?”
  • “I have had the same profile picture for three days…time to upload my new Selfie!”
  • “More Friends equals more “Likes””

Addiction to Texting/Email (Please Do Not Text and Drive!)

  • <Ding…notification of new text>.  “Where’s my phone?  Someone texted me!” Scrambling to stop what they are doing just to get to the text.
  • <Ding> “Oh wait..I got a text!” Abruptly stopping a crucial conversation with their spouse or child
  • <Ding> “I hope the next traffic light is RED…I need to get to this text…the suspense is KILLING me!” When driving. 
  • <Ding> “Hi Hon, could you pass me the salt.”  Husband and wife texting across the dinner table.

These were just some simple examples to demonstrate the restlessness and dependency created by addiction.  The same symptoms are applicable to a wide range of addictions.

If you could relate to some of the examples above, that is the FIRST step to recovery – acknowledgement. 🙂

Here are some of the techniques that I used to curb the issue when I recognized the onset of an addiction :

  • Removed the Social media app from my phone – Notifications are no longer glaring. I defined more structured times to catch up on “news”. Benefit – I had more time to do other productive and fun activities.
  • Practiced something referred to as “Telephone Meditation”* i.e. resist the need to attend to the text/email at that very instance.  Benefit – Your phone does not rule your life and you are less distracted by the <DIngs>.
  • Put the phone away at night. Benefit – Aaah..restful sleep! 🙂

Have a lovely weekend!

-A.K.

To learn more about Telephone meditation click here: Telephone Meditation, by Thich Nhat Hanh