Empowerment

Who empowers you to be the best you can be?

Is it your employer? Does a company culture automatically translate to empowered employees?

Is it your boss or manager? Do they carve the path for you to “BRING IT!”?

Is it your parents? Did they give to the freedom to explore your own interests and strengths?

Is it your spouse? Does he encourage you to explore and strengthen your individuality?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you have a head start on being empowered.

If you answered “No” to all the questions, fret not…all is not lost.

Although you may get an assist with external sources, true empowerment comes when YOU yourself believe in yourself!

Once you find it within YOURSELF, there’s no stopping you. There is no limit. There no perception of “Rejection” – it is just considered another door closer to SUCCESS!

Once you get here, no one can contain your energy:

No company culture.

No boss.

No parents.

No spouse.

NO ONE!!!

Bottom Line:

Believe, Believe, Believe!

A.K.

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Thank Goodness!

We often get caught up in the mundane aspects of life.

  • Wake up
  • Brush teeth
  • Eat breakfast
  • Go to work
  • Come home
  • Make dinner
  • Chat with family
  • Go to bed
  • Repeat

It’s no wonder we feel stressed out most of the time!

I guess that’s why we say “Thank goodness it’s Friday!”

Knowing that we can actually slow down on the weekend is a pleasant thought.

In all this, we tend to forget about the things that make our lives richer.

So, on the eve of Thanksgiving, I thought I would reflect on some of these things. Perhaps these will resonate with most of you.

Thank Goodness:

  1. I have two loving kids. They never fail to entertain…hormone surges and all. ๐Ÿ˜€
  2. I have a supportive husband. He has given me the room to discover myself and experience personal growth.
  3. I have a family that cares. Parents, in-laws, siblings. Life would be so lonely without them.
  4. I have a job. Regardless of challenges that are inherent with most jobs, having financial stability is definitely a plus.
  5. I have the time to stay healthy. The gym is one of my “happy places”!
  6. For GPS. I don’t get lost while driving anymore. ๐Ÿ˜€
  7. For Chocolate. Need I say more?

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Here’s to taking a little time to focus on the positive things in our lives!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

-A.K.

Philosophical Math

Math concepts play a part in many aspects of our life today.  We use addition, subtraction, division, multiplication for day to day transactions. We use angles for constructing buildings.  We use proportions for cooking and baking. These are just a few examples showing the practical use of math.

There are some math equations that I have arrived at (based on my personal experiences):


Fulfillment is inversely proportional to Social Media usage 

I have noticed that my social media usage has reduced ever since started  training for a triathlon. This has been one of my most fulfilling “hobbies”.  Perhaps because it has made me stronger, both mentally and physically.  

I usually turned to Facebook or Instagram when I was bored or lonely.  I guess that type of void has been eliminated. I don’t even experience FOMO (Fear of missing out). That would explain why I don’t feel the need to go on Facebook or Instagram multiple times a day.  Once a week seems to cut it.

Unhappiness is proportional to Expectations 

When I started exploring spirituality  a few years ago, this was one of the first lessons that came to light for me.  Maybe another way of phrasing it would be “You can’t be happy if you are a control freak!!”.  Anytime I felt disappointment, I would stop to reflect on the root cause and inevitably it would point to my expectations in a situation.  

This lesson also reformed my parenting style.  I went from a  “My way or the highway” dictator to being more of a trusted guide, advisor and friend.  Don’t get me wrong…Rules are still enforced when needed (we are dealing with teenagers here ๐Ÿ˜€).

The Misery Quotient equals pain raised to the power of X

Where X = number of times that a painful incident is remembered, retold or relived.

In other words, the quotient increases exponentially!  Hence we need to let go of things in the past in order to step towards being happy and in the moment. 

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A.K.

An Inspiring Life Anthem

I was listening closely to the song ” Greatest” by Sia and I suddenly realized that it had such an inspiring message.  I could apply it to both my family life and my athletic life.
Here are the lyrics that specifically caught my attention:

Uh-oh, running out of breath, but I

Oh, I, I got stamina

Uh-oh, running now, I close my eyes

Well, oh, I got stamina

And uh-oh, I see another mountain to climb

But I, I, I got stamina

Don’t give up, I won’t give up

Don’t give up, no no no

Don’t give up, I won’t give up

Don’t give up, no no no

We all have days or moments where we feel overwhelmed or where we think that we have nothing left to give.  We have to remind ourselves that we are stronger than what we might believe.  

Our mind has a tendency to put doubt in our own abilities and strength.  Perhaps it is about being in our comfort-zone.  It is so much easier to say “I can’t” than to actually make the effort to overcome.  That is the worst thing that one can say to themselves.  It literally puts you in a rut!

When I started training for a triathlon, I had so much self-doubt.  Starting these adventures after 40? What was I thinking?!  Luckily I opted to work with a personal trainer.  He caught on to my self-doubt quite fast.  Whenever I felt as thought so could not do anymore, his mantra was “This limit is just in your mind .  You need to get past that mental barrier”.  He was right!  He has proved to me that I am capable of way more than I could have even imagined in my adult-onset athletic life! 

That belief in myself has definitely carried over into my regular (non athletic) life as well. It is about staying strong and believing in yourself even against the odds.  There will be failures, yes.  But those are just like mountains…tell yourself , “I’ve got Stamina” and keep going.  If you feeing like as though you’re running out of breath say, “I’ve got stamina…don’t give up don’t give up…no, no, no”. ๐Ÿ˜€. That gets  you out of “victim” mode instantly!

You will also realize that that ” Stamina” is both physical and, more importantly, mental.  The more you train yourself to believe, the better you will get at progressing yourself through the journey of life…obstacles and all.  Self doubt will naturally subside and you will gain the strength and the focus to pursue your ultimate goal (whether that be a triathlon or merely being a happy soul)!

So don’t give up, don’t give up don’t give up no, no, no.

A.K.

Obsession vs. Determinationย 

Speaking from my (limited) experience, training for an athletic event requires a lot of patience, mental strength and determination.

Patience is needed because results are not always instantaneous.

Mental strength is required to get you past the temporary hurdles

Determination is key because this is what keeps you working towards the final goal through the ups and downs.

Although patience and mental strength are important, determination is critical to sustain the interest and hard work needed to train honestly and to the best of your ability.

So when does determination cross over into the darker side i.e “Obsession”?

While determination has more of a positive undertone, obsession is quite the opposite.

Obsession makes the mind restless.  It is almost equivalent to greed where you want something so badly that it consumes you. You stay in a constant state of discontent…desiring a particular end result.  It prevents you from appreciating genuine progress because your mind is clouded with an unrealistic perception of perfection…which in most cases is nothing but a red herring!

So be patient, strong, determined and train on. Let not the small failures discourage you as those are the building blocks to ultimate success!

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A.K.

Happy Diwali!

Diwali…a festival is that represents the victory of “Good over Evil”.  

It is celebrated in many ways:

  • Exchange of gifts
  • Lighting of lamps
  • Colorful designs on the ground (Rangoli)
  • Fireworks
  • Preparation of special foods for the occasion
  • Prayer at home 
  • Visits to the temple

It is a lively festival! 


It made me think though…how many people actually stopped to think about the true significance of Diwali?  I don’t mean reciting the story of Ram’s return to Ayodhya with Sita after defeating the evil King Ravan.  It goes well beyond that!

The good over evil refers to:

  • Us choosing positive thoughts over negative ones.  Instead of assuming the worst of everyone, maybe stop to think about their perspective…show some compassion.  We are always so busy feeing sorry for ourselves that we have no tolerance towards others.  Did we think about this during Diwali?
  • Us trying to better ourselves as human beings, starting within ourselves.  As much as we can wish for others to change, it is more how we deal with them that will make for a healthier relationship. This won’t happen overnight either…it’s our perseverance that will determine that success. Did we think about this during Diwali?

It is a common mistake.  We get so wrapped up in the tangential parts of a festival that we forget its core message.

Food for thought.

A.K.