As she lay beside me

As she lay beside me

I looked at her sucking her fingers

With eyes wide open

She was a new born baby!

As she lay beside me

After being nothing short of feisty 

 I saw her sleep calmly

She was a toddler with no shortage of opinions!

As she lay beside me

Needing some good ol’ mommy love

I saw my new best friend

She had grown to be a little lady!

*I look forward to many more milestones. We can bond over so much girly stuff.  πŸ˜€ Love you baby girl!

A.K.

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I felt like Aaron Rodgers’ mom!

I wanted to share a short story about what happened at my son’s soccer game.

It was the first soccer game of he season that I could attend.  My son had been a little disappointed that he had to sit out during the first few games of the season.  But it seemed that the new coach was starting to understand his strengths and skills.

The coach did put my son in this game, in his defensive position (left back).  The game progressed and I saw my son in action. He seemed to be doing his job well. πŸ˜€

During the second half, the coach swapped him out for a taller defender to match the opponent.  The team was still doing well although it seemed as though the opposing team  was getting more chances to come up to the goal.  Then, I heard a dad sitting next to me comment “Oh…Number 15 is out!” meaning that the defense was slightly weaker.

I smiled ever so slightly but I was BEAMING with pride on the inside.  My son was being referred to by his uniform number!  At that moment, I felt like Aaron Rodgers’ mom. πŸ˜€

I shared this feeling with my son on the car ride back adding “But I am your mom!”.  His reaction was classic!  He said, “Mom…” he shook his head and smiled.

Can you blame me though?

A.K.

I realize…

I realize that our bouts of laughter

Will stay with me forever after

I realize that I want the best for you
But don’t worry…I will consult with you πŸ˜€

I realize that you have opinions now
Some I am sure will make me say…”wow!”

I realize that there’s no bigger joy

Than seeing a smile on my little girl and boy

I realize that I have to be your guiding light 

To show what’s wrong and what is right

I realize that I want to enjoy my time with you 

My precious little ones…I will always love you!

  
-A.K.

Once upon a time…

Once upon a time

I was a baby

Milk and a clean diaper was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a a toddler

Food, random objects and a clean diaper was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a child

Food and toys was all I needed

Once upon a time

I was a high schooler

Food, friends and good grades was all I needed

Once upon a time

I became a young adult

Food and graduating from college was all I needed

Once upon a time

I found my first job

Food and proving myself was all I needed

Once upon a time

I got married

Food, a home and proving myself was all I needed

Once upon a time

I had children

Taking care of them and proving myself was all I needed

Now I have t(w)eens

Life is not about approval from others

Taking care of the family is still a high priority

Taking care of “me” is a concept that has now dawned upon me

Food is still something I need! πŸ˜€

-A.K

Don’t be a victim of InertiaΒ 

Do you or know someone who doesn’t get out much?  Do they prefer watching television to riding a bike? Then this post is for you!

What is ‘Inertia’?
Here is the definition of inertia (from dictionary.com):

“Resistance or disinclination of a body to motion, action or change”

Or

“A tendency of a body at rest to remain at rest”

If I were to simplify these definitions, these are some of the words that I would use:

  • Lazy
  • Lethargy 
  • Inactive
  • Disengaged/Clueless (in relation to the surroundings)

Let me put this in context.  Do you remember the science experiment in high school that demonstrated the concept of inertia?

If not, I can reiterate.

  • Place a cloth over a table
  • Set a few items on the cloth such as cups and dishes (preferably not glass)
  • Pull the cloth towards you, using both arms evenly, in a very swift and horizontal  motion

*If executed correctly, the cups and dishes should stay in their original positions even after the cloth has been pulled away.

Why? Because the objects are resistant to change in motion.

Let’s put this into a real life scenario:

It’s Saturday morning.  There are so many fun things to do with the family.  There are so many errands to run. The challenge is getting everyone else on board with your swift pace (much like the cloth in the illustration above).

Inertia rears its ugly head!!

Figuratively speaking, there are times when you just want to pull the cloth without attention to the direction and effort used.  Unfortunately, that would simply result in a disruptive situation.  Trying to drag everyone along also creates a negative atmosphere because of their apparent resistance to change.  

There are ways to move things along though.  It would involve some negotiation, patience, leadership and more patience.  Let’s be honest here…our patience reservoirs sometimes get dried up…but it will eventually (when the drought passes πŸ˜€) get replenished so don’t give up hope.

But why has inertia become more widespread today?  There are a few reasons:

  • Kids don’t play outside with the neighbors as much. Everyone is busy with their own lives and we don’t feel as safe letting our kids hang out in the neighborhood without close supervision 
  • Portable devices have eliminated the need for basic social interaction. If you are ever in an airport, bus or restaurant, just take a look at how many kids and adults are on their phones or devices. This has become a standard part of life!
  • Too many options on television.  How many t.v. stations do we need anyway?
  • The internet provides a plethora of viewing and reading options.  Reading is a good thing but pointless reading is an utter waste of time!
  • Web-enabled video games…supposedly this is a substitute for social interaction! 

If everything you need is at your fingertips and can be achieved by sitting in the same position for hours and hours then where is the motivation to get out and play, run around, interact wih people (face to face), and be active? Obesity is a result of eating unhealthy high calorie and high fat foods compounded by the lack of activity in kids today.

The only saving grace for kids is that parents can sign them up for sports like swimming, soccer, tennis, taekwondo or any other sport of choice.  

Adults on the other hand have to realize the negative consequences of inertia (physical, emotional and social) and make changes on their own. We can only encourage them or try to engage them but they have to perceive activity as important in order to change their inactive ways.

Let’s not watch our families fall victim to this horrible tendency. For starters, do things as a family like hike, bike or play sports in the park or backyard.  It will do them good and it will do you good!

-A.K.

    Dear Daughter

    A friend of mine is expecting a baby girl. What a special time! If I were writing the book “What to expect when you’re expecting”, I would warn the expectant mother that pregnancy naturally draws peoples’ attention and nurturing tendencies. This sometimes presents itself as advice and opinions that falls into two categories – useful and not-so-useful.   Continue reading