Philosophical Math

Math concepts play a part in many aspects of our life today.  We use addition, subtraction, division, multiplication for day to day transactions. We use angles for constructing buildings.  We use proportions for cooking and baking. These are just a few examples showing the practical use of math.

There are some math equations that I have arrived at (based on my personal experiences):


Fulfillment is inversely proportional to Social Media usage 

I have noticed that my social media usage has reduced ever since started  training for a triathlon. This has been one of my most fulfilling “hobbies”.  Perhaps because it has made me stronger, both mentally and physically.  

I usually turned to Facebook or Instagram when I was bored or lonely.  I guess that type of void has been eliminated. I don’t even experience FOMO (Fear of missing out). That would explain why I don’t feel the need to go on Facebook or Instagram multiple times a day.  Once a week seems to cut it.

Unhappiness is proportional to Expectations 

When I started exploring spirituality  a few years ago, this was one of the first lessons that came to light for me.  Maybe another way of phrasing it would be “You can’t be happy if you are a control freak!!”.  Anytime I felt disappointment, I would stop to reflect on the root cause and inevitably it would point to my expectations in a situation.  

This lesson also reformed my parenting style.  I went from a  “My way or the highway” dictator to being more of a trusted guide, advisor and friend.  Don’t get me wrong…Rules are still enforced when needed (we are dealing with teenagers here 😀).

The Misery Quotient equals pain raised to the power of X

Where X = number of times that a painful incident is remembered, retold or relived.

In other words, the quotient increases exponentially!  Hence we need to let go of things in the past in order to step towards being happy and in the moment. 

😀

A.K.

Obsession vs. Determination 

Speaking from my (limited) experience, training for an athletic event requires a lot of patience, mental strength and determination.

Patience is needed because results are not always instantaneous.

Mental strength is required to get you past the temporary hurdles

Determination is key because this is what keeps you working towards the final goal through the ups and downs.

Although patience and mental strength are important, determination is critical to sustain the interest and hard work needed to train honestly and to the best of your ability.

So when does determination cross over into the darker side i.e “Obsession”?

While determination has more of a positive undertone, obsession is quite the opposite.

Obsession makes the mind restless.  It is almost equivalent to greed where you want something so badly that it consumes you. You stay in a constant state of discontent…desiring a particular end result.  It prevents you from appreciating genuine progress because your mind is clouded with an unrealistic perception of perfection…which in most cases is nothing but a red herring!

So be patient, strong, determined and train on. Let not the small failures discourage you as those are the building blocks to ultimate success!

😀

A.K.

With power comes responsibility…

This is a famous line from “The Spiderman”.

I drew inspiration from that line to write this post.

With power comes responsibility,

With responsibilty comes stress

With stress comes malaise

With malaise comes unhappiness

With unhappiness comes despair!

What is the price we pay for gaining power?  More importantly, are we willing to live with those consequences?

-A.K.

The sun will rise…again

Inspired by the concept of impermanence.

The sun will set…with beautiful colors…but fret not, for it will rise again

Close friends will move on…leaving you with only memories…but fret not, for there will be many more people to meet 

Relationships will go awry…leaving you confused…but fret not for this will make you grow (wiser and stronger)

Babies will grow up…giving you fewer cuddles and kisses…but fret not for you can enjoy their teenage humor and shenanigans 😀

You will have a really bad day…making you feel worn out…but fret not for work is only a minor part of your day

You will mess up from time to time…and question your integrity…but fret not for your own forgiveness will give you a new beginning!

Youth will slip away…enter botox?  OMG!!!…fret not for wisdom is the key to eternal happiness (and costs much less!)

The sun will set…in all its glory…but fret not for it surely will rise again!

The point being that sometimes things start to look grim beacuse we so badly want to hang on to a “status quo” where we feel really good.   But if we just understand that this feeling of despair is self-imposed (due to our “attachment” to a situation or thing or person) we will be able to move forward.  The happiness that once was is also around the bend (in the form of a new opportunity)…just make that turn…again😀

A.K.

It’s too late to apologize

I love this song by One Republic (not to be confused with One Direction 😀).  

Up until a year ago, I had only heard the ‘Timbaland’ version, which is quite a catchy remix.  When I heard the original, I found it very pleasing.  The presence of the strings are more dominant and definitely evoke some emotion.  Then, there is Ryan Tedder’s singing. ‘The man has got range!’  Of course, I had to listen to it over and over and over again.

In that process, I started to pay a little more attention to the lyrics.  As most ‘You broke my heart’ type of songs go…there is always a note of resentment attached (pun intended).  It made me wonder…is there a statute of limitations for apologies??

  1. If your friend messes up, but regrets their mistake…when does it become too late to apologize?
  2. If you let your emotions get the better of you…is it ever too late to apologize?
  3. If you are mean to another because they were the same to you…does that imply that it’s way too late to apologize?

The simple answer is “No”.  Only your ego prevents you from apologizing.  Only your ego prevents you from accepting an apology. 

It’s exactly the same feeling when you are hanging from a horizontal bar (for the sake of analogy) and you are trying to hold on for the longest time. Despite the pain in your arms, you keep holding on and making yourself experience more and more pain.  Then your body finally gives in and you ‘Let go’.  What a relief!  Life is good!
If we let go, sooner that later, we make life better for ourselves!

Remember, the only situation where it too late to apologize is when either you or the other have passed on. Then, it is really too late.

So let go of the high bar and enjoy life!

A.K.